Female2Female

With 16 Days of Activism for No Violence against Women and Children this week, everyone is talking, blogging it and trying to make a difference. Not many people is as enthusiastic about doing something about this situation as others and many people are even criticizing the cause.

With this 16 Days of Activism for No Violence against Women and Children week, this cause is hitting very near home.

About 3 years ago, my sister has just met a guy who was someone she adored very much and has brought him over a couple of times. From the beginning he was not someone my parents liked and till this day, my hubby still do not like him.

So after a couple of months, they decided to move in together and everything was going fine, we all thought. Till one night my sister knocked at our door and asked if she can sleep at our home for the night because of a big fight she and her boyfriend had. Her boyfriend who have lost him temper, have hit the closet with his fist. The closet door had a large hole in it and my sister got scared and came over to us.

After an half an hour we had another knock at the door and this time it was her boyfriend. He was drunk and wanted to see my sister. We refused but my sister said its fine, she will see him outside. We were waiting for her to come back into our home and we could hear how they were arguing outside. Luckily my children were asleep, so they did not hear a thing.

After 10 minutes we heard her scream as to which we ran outside and saw that her boyfriend have hit her in her face. My hubby just wanted to hit him back and take him to the police but I said no, and threw him out of the yard. I just did not want him (her boyfriend) to open a file at the police for hubby if he did hit him. I know it is wrong of me for not wanting my hubby to hit or take him to the police but I was not in favor of any lawsuits.

We talked to her for hours. I and my mother could not understand as to why she still wanted to go back to someone who has hit her. Our father have not hit (not even spanked us for being naughty) or my mother in his life and I were and is still married to a man who have and will never lift his hand for me or our children. So why did she wanted to go back to someone who have hit her? Why take that chance? So we let her be and she went back to him.

She is now with him for the past 3 years and never after that incident did he hit her again. Why? Because my father and husband have warned him the day after that incident when he were not drunk, that if he hit her again, we will take him to the police and open a file against him.

He still gets aggressive when he is drunk and we are so scared that he will hit their children one day, as to which we really pray that there will be none because of what we know he did to my sister and we are worried. We still can’t understand how she is still with this person who has hit her. If I were in her situation, I would have been so angry with this person who has hit me. With this person who has taken away my dignity by hitting me as if I was a dog. Why would I want to stay with someone like that? Even if I have known that he would never do it do me again, I would not stay with someone like that. Never!

Still I can’t understand why my sister is with him. Still she will take his side when he is drunk and get aggressive. Still she will just let it roll of her back like water from a duck’s back. Why does she do that, still?

My wish to this world of ours and with this 16 Days of Activism for No Violence against Women and Children week, is that there will be more men like my father and husband, who are willing to lock up these men who are hitting their girlfriends, mothers, wife’s and children. That there will be more men who are like my father and husband who will make that choice as to NOT lift their hand for woman and children.