What is Romance
Posted on 28. Jul, 2009 by Laura in Uncategorized
The other day on twitter a fellow single mom and I were chatting about date nights and romance.
It got me thinking – what is romance?
Is romance in the candle lit dinners or rose petals laid out all over? Is it in moonlit walks or flowers delivered unexpectedly? Is it poems and surprise get aways?
Or is maybe in the everyday? Is it not in the making dinner together? Or watching a movie cuddled up on the couch? Is it not in the text that only you two understand? Or in the glance across a crowded room – when your eyes meet and you just know.
I mentioned to my friend that maybe; we need to redefine what romance is. And instead for placing our definition onto the person we are with. Let me them define it and we go with that.
There may not be flowers or moonlit walks but what there will be will be real. It will be felt from his heart. It will be special because the simple act of being with someone is in itself romantic. I had moments on Saturday night, with a house full of people that could not have been more romantic.
Sometimes, I think, we as women need to forget the chick flicks. We need to forget the socially accepted definition of romantic and instead enjoy the moments every day that we have.
For me, there is nothing more romantic when you get out the car to go somewhere and his hand reaches out for yours.
Angie
Jul 28th, 2009
Perhaps ROMANTIC is also defined by who you are with? Possibly guys’ acts of ROMANCE would vary as well. Also, what may be romantic to you IN THE MOMENT, may not be romantic for someone else…
Barbara
Jul 28th, 2009
Romance for me is complex it is absolutely those little things a person does unprompted that make you feel special and give you that warm fuzzy feeling, they are the romance that sustain a relationship – so the hand holding, cooking and watching tv together thing is a great example.
The candle lit dinners etc are the big gestures which really WOW you – they sadly (or maybe not) do get less once the wooing is done but it is from both sides – we as women do tend to miss their original frequency but they are not what make a good relationship, just a fun one.
I must say I like the long-term comfortableness more than the giddy first bit romance (though I do have my moments of missing being woo’d lol)
Damaria
Jul 28th, 2009
I like your take on romance.
angel
Jul 28th, 2009
I love that. Getting out of the car and his hand reaches for yours. It’s so true.
I am so very lucky in that I have a lot of romance in my life. I have the handholding and more! My sweet Glugs knows what kind of nougat I like, and sometimes when he stops for bread on the way home, he gets me one. And sometimes he’ll get me a tub of crabstick salad, because he knows I love it- even though he can’t stand the stuff. And sometimes he holds my robe ready for me to climb into when I get out of the shower. And he records the shows he knows I would love to see but might not be able to watch for some or other reason! We hold hands across the table when we eat out. And he knows exactly what I’m crooning over when I look in a shop window!
I wish everyone could have what I have…
tessa
Jul 31st, 2009
haai my man knows nothing about romance. His idea was buying Shipmate bubble bath for our first valentine’s as husband & wife. And another year I got a Fondue set-at least it was practical long little devil forks I could use to poke him.
tessa
Jul 31st, 2009
just to add -inspite of my man’s lack of romance I know with every single fibre of me that I am completely and utterly loved by this man.
What is Romance
Aug 11th, 2009
It is love in action, thoughtfulness with sacrifice, gifting with thought and intent with the sole purpose of leaving a lasting impression of sincerity and love with another person.