Love Yourself
Posted on 04. Feb, 2010 by Nicci in General
This being February, the month of Love, I would like to focus on exactly that – LOVE.
And before you roll your eyes and click on the red X in the top right hand corner, take a deep breath and continue reading. I am not talking about the romantic, fake red plastic heart kinda love we get bombarded with through the media. We are constantly bombarded with images, if I buy that dress I will find the perfect date, if I spray that scent, if I get those shoes, if I drive that car, if I earn <insert amount here>. We are so focused on finding love outside of ourselves, it’s become a bit of an obsession with some and there is a multi billion Rand industry that thrives on this kind of thinking.
We all want to be loved. It’s in our nature. We all crave love and affection and acceptance. This is why we are willing to spend thousands of Rands on making ourselves pretty, buying the ‘right’ house in the ‘right’ area, driving certain cars, working ourselves into a coma to earn a certain amount of money, etc etc etc. We say to ourselves that if we do everything right, if we do everything in a certain way that someone will turn up on our doorstep and love us. Someone will come and make everything ok, someone will show up and make life worth living. You will find your “other half” and live happily ever after.
We are so busy seeking love outside of us that we forget about the love already inside of us. We forget that love starts with us. We forget to love ourselves complete with cellulite, fat rolls and bad hair. We are constantly telling ourselves we are not worthy, we are not pretty enough, not rich enough, not thin enough we live in a state of “not enough”. Constantly chasing that external thing that will bring us love, joy and happiness.
I would like to remind you and I would like you to remind yourself that you are awesome, you are worthy, you are perfectly you. There is no-one else on the planet that is the same as you, you are unique and even if you are ugly, fat or poor, that fact, the fact that you are unique and perfectly you makes you worthy of your love. There is nothing or nobody that will bring you love, joy or happiness if you don’t already experience that without that something or someone. It starts with you. So this month, instead of focusing outside of you, bring your focus to the inside. Focus on you. Remind yourself how great and awesome you are. Stop telling yourself stories about why you don’t deserve love and instead tell yourself why you DO deserve love. Maybe you make a kick ass cup of tea, maybe you give to charity, maybe you give the best hugs or you have the brightest smile or your toes look cute when you wear pink nail polish.
Surround yourself with people, places and things that nurture your body and soul. By taking care of yourself you actively show yourself love, eat nutritious delectable meals, get some exercise, do something that makes your heart sing. If you are serious about breaking the cycle, and if you want to stop lying to yourself about why you DON’T deserve to be loved. Try it just for this month, what do you have to lose? Make a point everyday of listing a few things that makes you great. Even if it sounds silly to you, who cares it’s YOUR list. Have fun, laugh and enjoy life, connect with that inner child a bit. Embrace all of you, unconditionally. No exception! When you look in the mirror say to yourself “I love you” and remind yourself constantly that you are amazing, there is no-one else who can be better at being you than you.
I want to leave you with this quote from Marianne Williamson – print it and stick it on your pc monitor or where you can see it often to remind yourself:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure… We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? … Your playing small does not serve the world.”
Go out there and shine as brightly as you can! Love you lots! Until next time.
Barbara
Feb 4th, 2010
i loved reading this thanks Nicci
this is a really great thing to remember each day “you are awesome, you are worthy, you are perfectly you.”
Shayne
Feb 4th, 2010
Loved this. thank you so much for writing this. what you said is so true.
Robyn
Feb 4th, 2010
what you say is oh so true!
(and seeing as though we are 4 days into ‘the month of love’ Il start now,by saying…)
i am fabulous, and awesome and my toes look pretty with purple nail polish;-)
Thank you for the reminder.
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