Power of Positivity
Posted on 22. Jan, 2010 by Nicci in General
I never fancied myself much of a writer. I’ve been telling myself this for years. I slowly started realizing however that I can be a writer if I really want to, if I applied my mind I can be whatever I want to be. So this year I have made it my mission – apart from taking up knitting and sewing – to start writing. First I started little bits in my weekly newsletter. Then I started my own blog.
You see I have something to say and I can’t always rely on others to convey my message through quotes I see and by dictating pieces of my mind. Through the things I will share with you here now and in future I can only give it to from my perspective and hopefully some of you will be able to identify with what I have to say, some of you won’t be ready to hear it just yet and that’s also ok.
When I asked Laura if she would be keen for me to contribute to this site I was raring to go. But I procrastinated a bit on what to submit. I had all sorts of ideas none of which ‘felt’ right. But upon further investigation I realized that I am scared. I am scared that some of you will misunderstand what I am trying to say, I am scared that some of you won’t listen or look and a whole host of other insecureties. So I decided to take the bull by the horns and just say my say and get it over with.
Because as I always advise friends and clients in the end it doesn’t matter. The only one you should worry about what they think is you. What someone else thinks of you is none of your business. I firmly believe that we are the creators of our reality, through what we focus on and what we think. I am in fact living proof of this and hopefully I can inspire others to realize that they have it in their full power to choose what kind of experience they have in this life.
The only thing you can control are your thoughts and your feelings. You are 100% in charge of them. We are reactive emotional beings but we don’t have to be. In any given moment you can choose how you wish to react. Yes you can. It takes a lot of self control and a disiplined mind but you can do it if you really wanted to, just like I can write if I really wanted to.
Have you ever noticed that when you feel all happy and shiny how everything just looks brighter and better and things just seem to fall into place effortlessly. Or how when you wake up in a funk everything seems to go wrong, the kids knock your tea all over your work, the dog jumps with his muddy paws on your work clothes, you are late dropping the kids off but you are grateful to be rid of them because they have been screeching for half an hour on the way to school. Then you get stuck in a traffic jam and you are late for work, a customer calls and shouts at you and so on and so forth. Ever noticed how those things just don’t happen when you are in “a good mood”?
Is this starting to make sense for you? See the Law of Attraction is simple, we are made up of energy and so are our thoughts, so whatever energy you send out there via your thoughts, ‘the Universe’ will actively seek out and bring that into your space. Just like your Mama always told you “one rotten apple spoils the whole barrel”. It works the same with thoughts. There is of course a lot more to it than that but in a nutshell that’s what it is about.
Life is a string of moments and if you focus on just the now and find something to be happy about right now you will have a string of happy moments before you know it. We are so busy chasing that pot of gold at the end of the rainbow that we forget to live. Nothing outside of you will ever bring you happiness, you already have it in you to be the happiest sparkliest you. And if you look at life through a filter of joyfulness and love a whole world of possibilities will open up for you. It may sound idealistic to some but in the end the only thing that matters is that we have a joyful, loving existince and it’s not selfish to actively seek out things that bring us joy. And the more love and joy you give the more you will receive.
“When you accept what is, every moment is the best moment ~Eckhart Tolle”
Barbara
Jan 22nd, 2010
Thanks Nicci – i kind of needed this little slap on the back of the head – going to try changing my view instead of digging my holes
Fiona
Jan 22nd, 2010
So very very true! Looking forward to reading more of your stuff Nicci
Wenchy
Jan 25th, 2010
I do agree with you that there is power in positive thinking… I do however know that it is easier for some, than others.
It does not come naturally to me, AT ALL and takes allot of effort.
… and no, this does not make me Eeyore by default.
Nicci
Jan 25th, 2010
I agree Wenchy it is harder for some than others. I am by nature a “glass half empty” kind of person, pessimistic. I am prone to bouts of depression and it used to take me months to get out. So it certainly does take effort and discipline to keep my thoughts in the happy.
But I gladly apply the effort it takes, it’s much more rewarding to feel happy and shiny than the opposite. And like everything in life the more you do it the easier it becomes.
My depression and bouts of self pity, anger towards the world and woe is me made me feel safe somehow. I felt like that for so long, I told myself and believed that it was my protection mechanism. And it was hard to let go of that.
I finally released all of those feelings and realized that I had to break down all the “defenses and walls” and be open and vulnerable to life. And that it is OK to be open and vulnerable. For love to enter in and out of your life you have to be kwim?
It’s easy to be pessimistic and negative, but where is the joy in that?
♥
Julia
Jan 25th, 2010
I have made this my thing for 2010 and I am really, really struggling. It simply does not come naturally to me and I have to really focus on being positive. I am generally glass half-empty and I am also prone to bouts of depression and pity parties, so thinking positively really forces me out of my comfort zone.
That said, I’m taking it one day at a time. By the grace of God.
Thank you for this fabulous article..xx